Does Everyone Enjoy Anal Stimulation?
Let’s start by getting this out of the way. Anal stimulation isn’t for everyone whether it’s fingering, a penis, playing with a safe toy or even just stimulating around the anus. Many men are worried that liking anal play means they’re gay. It doesn’t. Gay, straight and bisexual men are all equipped with nerve endings and prostates that allow them to enjoy anal stimulation of all types. Sexuality may differ, but biology doesn’t.
Secondly, it’s often more common for women to be on the receiving end than men. This works for many couples. However, you may simply not be into the idea of anal play. Nevertheless, you won’t know if you might like it unless you try it, so we suggest you give anal fingering a try!
Communicating About Anal Stimulation
Even though many people enjoy having their ass played with, it’s not something you should rush into without first making sure your partner is okay with it. Verbal communication before the fact is the easiest way to see where your man stands on the issue, whether you’re interested in having your own ass stimulated or you’re interested in adding to his pleasure. You could even show him this article to gauge his interest!
Sometimes a surprise finger in the ass can be well received, but you’re risking completely turning your partner off if you venture into uncharted territories without his permission. Even if he likes anal play, he might not be prepared for it, which could lead to an unpleasant experience or the end of your sexual liaisons. Similarly, you might want time to shower or otherwise prepare for a foray into ass play.
If your lover is into the idea, you might eventually move to pegging, which is where you fuck him with a strap-on. This can play into D/s roles because giving anal stimulation is so powerful.
Preparing for Anal Stimulation
Whether you’re new to anal play or you want to make your man feel more comfortable about anal fingering or even a toy in his ass, preparation will help ensure a smooth experience. If you rush into this type of sexual play, it may be uncomfortable or even lead to pain and bleeding. Of course, who would want to try anal fingering again after an experience like that? So follow these guidelines for a positive anal fingering experience.
If you’re tense, it will literally make it harder for you to enjoy anal play. So take a deep breath and let the tension out of your body. It may help to relax your throat as this can also relax muscles in your butt. Obviously, planning allows you to relax. Try a relaxing song or even a little social lubricant. Just don’t overdo it because you want to retain control. More tips about relaxing for anal.
Most anal receivers are concerned about their personal hygiene, but you’ll want to consider the hygiene of whoever is doing the anal fingering, too. Don’t believe porn, where every starlet has perfectly manicured nails that are nearly an inch long. You would never want that coming near your backside! Instead, nails should always clipped short and without ragged edges, which can cause internal tearing.
Wearing a glove or even just clipping a single finger from a glove to wear over your digit can prevent any damage to your partner’s rectum in addition to making lube application and cleanup a breeze.
Of course, many people are considered about preparing for anal play. We all know what the anus is actually designed for, but that doesn’t mean it can’t also provide pleasure. After all, the main function of the vagina is menstruation and childbirth!
It’s important to prepare before someone eats your ass, too.
There’s always a chance that you might run into a little fecal matter when providing anal stimulation to a lover, but those chances are lower with anal fingering than with using a dildo or penis that penetrates further. Having a prior bowel movement to clear out the canal will certainly help. Many people feel more comfortable being on the receiving end of anal fingering after having a shower.
You probably don’t need to, but there are two additional steps you can take to make sure you’re squeaky clean for anal penetration. These include using a douche containing luke-warm water splashed into your butt to remove any remaining fecal matter. An enema is more invasive but will do the ultimate cleanup job.
Lube for Anal Play
Lube is a must when it comes to anal sex, and you might want to consider it with anal fingering, too. The anus provides no natural lubrication, which can lead to tiny tears and even increase your risk of sexually transmitted infections. You can opt for a water-based lube because it’s less expensive, but those tend to dry up faster and become sticky as they do. But they wash off easily with water.
Here are a couple water-based lubes to consider.
- Sliquid Naturals Sassy is intended specifically for anal play.
- Maximus is a thick lube great for use with toys.
- System Jo H2O is the company’s water-based lube.
- System Jo Naturals comes in both water and silicone formulas and is intended to feel similar to your natural lubrication.
Silicone-based lubes are also condom compatible (condoms aren’t necessary for preventing pregnancy during anal ). They tend to be thinner but last longer without reapplication, which is perfect for marathon sexual sessions. Silicone lubes do require soap and water to remove. Sliquid’s Silver receives high praise, and Pjur is also well-known for its silicone lubricants.
If you’re looking for something in between, companies now make hybrids that tend to be a little thicker than pure silicone lube but longer lasting than water-based lubricants. System Jo Hybrid, Sliquid Silk and Wet Synergy are examples of these hybrid lubricants.
Anal Fingering for Him
Now that you’re cleaned up or your partner is ready to explore some anal fingering, what can do you. Let’s start with ideas for him.
A man’s anus is one of the most powerful erogenous zones in his body thanks to the prostate. The prostate is located around two inches inside a man’s anus, toward his stomach. You can curl your fingers during anal fingering, and curved toys work better for prostate stimulation. It feels somewhat like a walnut, and your man will likely recognize it as soon as you find it. Although, some men don’t.
The prostate responds to greater pressure than other erogenous zones. Some men like on-and-off pressure from the pad of a finger, while others will simply like the feeling of their prostate being pressed during sexual intercourse or a blowjob.
However, not every man loves prostate play, and there are other options when it comes to anal fingering to him. You can slowly work your way closer to his anus and rub around the anus and the puckered ring. A simple in-and-out motion might be pleasurable while you’re pleasing him with your other hand or mouth, and you can add more fingers as he becomes comfortable with the sensation.
Why Women Enjoy Anal Fingering
As a woman, you don’t have a prostate, but that doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy anal stimulation. The thin wall between the anus and vagina allows sensation to move through, which means that anal stimulation can feel especially pleasurable when you’re having sex or playing with a sex toy. In fact, some women enjoy stimulating their own backdoor during masturbation, and that’s a great way to become accustomed to the sensations before you explore anal fingering with your partner.
When it comes to digital stimulation of your own posterior, you don’t have to rush into penetration. Start by inviting your partner to grab your ass, massage your cheeks and even give a little spanking if you’re into that. Before he gets to anal fingering, he can run the pad of his finger or thumb around your anus. Even if he gets no further than this, you might find it quite pleasurable, especially when added to clitoral stimulation or penetrative intercourse.
Your partner can move from the area surrounding your anus to directly over it, even covering it with his finger before experimenting with anal fingering. Of course, penetration is the next logical step, and a finger or two is a great workup to your partner’s penis. If you’re not into fingering your own backdoor, you might not want something larger like a penis or anal-safe toy.
However, you should never go from the anus to the vagina, which can transmit bacteria and lead to nasty infections. Unrolling a condom over your partner’s fingers or using a glove can help to prevent the transmission of bacteria, and you should always switch condoms when moving between anal and vaginal sex.
Some people love feeling stretched and even try to use toys as big as possible.
While you might not like anal fingering or even incorporate backdoor exploration into every sexual rendez-vous, you might be pleasantly surprised how much you like adding a little anal play to intercourse or masturbation. And the thrills you get from pleasing your own partner through anal and prostate stimulation are second to none!
