Now that we have discussed why you need to talk dirty to your man, it’s time to learn how to do it.
1. Start In The Shallow End Of The Pool – If you suddenly start talking dirty to your man and are being extremely explicit, then there is a chance that he is going to get a little freaked out, especially if it’s the last thing that he’d normally expect from you.
It’s a much better idea to slowly introduce dirty talk that is not too extreme or ‘out there’ or explicit. Start slowly and build up to the more intense stuff.
2. Begin In The Bedroom – You’ll also find that it’s easiest and most natural to introduce dirty talk in the bedroom or when you are both alone. This way there is far less pressure.
Once you get comfortable talking dirty to your man in private, then start experimenting elsewhere. There’s nothing more exciting than seeing your man’s reaction when you lean in and whisper something filthy in his ear while you’re both in a crowded bar!
3. Tailor It To His Tastes – Almost every guy on the planet adores it when you talk dirty to him, but…it’s vital that you quickly learn what type of dirty talk phrases he likes most. Some guys prefer it when you are subtle and even polite with your dirty talk while others prefer it when you are super explicit.
So your man might love it when you say something simple and subtle like, “I can’t wait to get you home,” while you are both at church. Or he may prefer it when you use incredibly explicit dirty talk like, “I can’t wait till we get home so I can get down on my knees and feel your cock throbbing in my mouth.”
The key is finding out which type of dirty talk works best on your man by experimenting and trying it out in different ways, whether that’s sending him dirty text messages like the 43 sexts you’ll find here and the 11 extra dirty messages here, or using these 64 dirty talk examples, these 91 extra dirty things to say to him or just asking him some dirty, naughty questions, like these 69 sexy questions.
4. Tailor It To Your Tastes – Of course you want to talk dirty in a way that turns your man on, this is obvious. But don’t forget that you need to be having fun too! So many women forget this.
If you feel uncomfortable using explicit language while talking dirty to your man or if you don’t like the idea of sending him dirty text messages, don’t feel that you have to! The key is making dirty talk work for you.
However, my advice is that you should try it out first before deciding whether or not it’s for you.
It’s totally natural to feel a little nervous and even shy when you first start talking dirty to your man or when you try something new. As you do it more and more and see your husband’s positive reaction, your confidence will grow.
5. Don’t Force It! – The advice you read here is just that; it’s advice. It’s not a rigid law that works flawlessly every time or in every situation. Anyone that claims to have a secret, “magic formula” for talking dirty that works every time is lying.
So if you try a particular dirty talking technique a few times and never get the reaction you’re looking for, DON’T FEEL LIKE YOU HAVE TO KEEP DOING IT! Just forget about that technique and try something else. Through this process of trial and error, seeing what works for you and what doesn’t, you’ll slowly build up an encyclopedia of dirty talking phrases and strategies that will keep your man obsessed.
Some women find that the dirty talk that benefits them the most is the more explicit, “out there” kind while others find that very subtle dirty talk works best. Some excel at phone sex while others get better results from dirty text messages. They key is focusing on what works best for you.
6. The Great Dirty Talking Lie – There is a misconception that many women have when they are learning to talk dirty, it’s a trap I hope that you won’t fall into. Some women think that the best way to talk dirty is to be very explicit and aggressive.
As you read the chapters of this guide and try out some of the dirty talk phrases in next article, you’ll quickly realize that being subtle when you talk dirty to your man can often be more intense and powerful than being aggressive or explicit.
For example, while you are at a party with your man, leaning into him and softly whispering, “If theses people weren’t around, I would do terrible things to you,” and then giving him a cheeky grin before continuing your conversation like normal is crazy powerful. It’s going to blow your man away. He’ll be constantly wondering what you meant, what you are going to do to him after the party and, of course, he’s going to be very turned on too.
But you didn’t even say anything that outrageous. Keep this in mind as you experiment and learn to talk dirty and you will have one very happy man who is completely addicted to you and only you.