FaceTime sex (or Skype or Signal or Google Hangouts or, hell, even Zoom sex) will never be the glory that is face-to-face, skin-to-skin, in-person fuckery, but for a lot of us right now, it’s the only sex that’s gonna be happening.
But it’s a good thing that FaceTime sex can be legit hot AF. Seriously. It is a great chance to explore fantasies, let out your inner voyeur/exhibitionist, and get super real about what turns you on. You can get your dominatrix on, submit to your partner’s whims, break out some sexy-ass lingerie, and use whatever toys or props you want. (Yes, we should always be doing that anyway, but sometimes we don’t and something about the physical separation of video sexting makes it a little easier, to be honest. Don’t know why. It’s mysterious, man.)
You can go super “This is me” and just jump in—damn the potentially unflattering chin-up angle/way-up-close, gigantic V shot filling the whole frame, etc.…or you can do some prep work to set the scene and figure out how to minimize any potential self-consciousness of parading your naked self in front of a camera if it freaks you the eff out. (If it really freaks you out, video sex, like any other kind of sex, can absolutely be off the table. Your virtual body, your rules.) Even if you’re 100 percent into it, revenge porn is still a thing because some people suck, so protect yourself, be smart.
The FaceTime Soak
If you feel shy or weird about just getting naked, start out with a bath together/apart. The nakedness is more organic and it can feel safer to have some of your body more hidden under the water or a pile of bubbles. Angle your computer on a chair next to the tub so it’s pointing at you but not going anywhere. (And unplug that puppy and make sure you’ve got a full battery—being electrocuted in the tub like this is not the way to go!) Soak up, gradually taking it more hard-core. You can use just your soapy hand or a waterproof (important!) toy, or break out the handheld showerhead.
Take turns asking each other to do something—take off a piece of clothing, brush a thumb up their inner thigh, squeeze a dollop of lube between their legs, use a toy in a specific place, moan for you. It’s your chance to be the boss of someone and get your perv on. Stretch it out as long as you can. Don’t let each other have an orgasm until the other says they can.
The Big Tease
You partner is allowed to look but not touch (can’t touch you, obviously, but they also can’t touch themselves). Make it a little rough for them. Do a slow striptease, stroke your body, then let them watch as you play with yourself with a hand or toy. Let them see the ways you like to be touched. If you are feeling kind, let them join in at the end—or don’t.
The Literal FaceTime
A surprisingly sexy twist on a FaceTime sesh is to show your faces only. As you touch yourselves with toys or hands, tell each other what you’re doing and let your imaginations handle the rest. Watching someone’s face—and being watched—reacting up to and through an orgasm can be surprisingly intimate. It’s also super comfortable—just lie back in bed and you’re good to go!
The Remote Rumbles
Give your partner the next best thing to yourself by investing in some teledildonics. You can outfit yourselves with a sleeve and vibrator toys—or each use your favorite vibrator—and control your partner’s stimulation remotely via apps. Just sit in your beds with phones in your hand so you can operate the controls and behold your powers at work. Take turns wrecking each other or go full power on each other at once. P.S. Figure out all the tech junk beforehand so you waste no time fumbling around.
If you’re not into transmitting your O face or you just don’t want to have your face and your junk in the same frame (completely legit!), have your genitals connect remotely. Get on your knees, prop your phone or laptop so it just shows your torso, and masturbate to the sight of each other. You’ll still be able to hear each other’s moans and you can stare at your partner’s hand stroking themselves as much as you want.
The Cam Star
Play cam girl for the night and give your partner an all-access private show (or vice versa). Wear something super sexy and slowly undress, teasing them. Be a little porny if you’re feeling it or let them take control and tell you what they’d like to see next. It’s more suspenseful and exhilarating than any Netflix cliff-hangers, that’s for sure.
The Online Date
Don’t just have an orgasm and then sign off—have an actual date. Plan it ahead of time, dress in whatever is sexy is to you, talk a little over a drink or food. Strip for each other, taking your time and building anticipation. You can prop a phone or laptop by your knees or get on all fours so they can imagine plunging into you while you play with yourself with a toy. This is a next-level date night for all parties involved, trust.